The inner superpower we all have access to
Updated: Jun 10, 2019
This superpower literally changed my mind....for good.
It is called meditation....
For years I was a mess. I suffered from depression and anxiety which I numbed with alcohol and other self destructive behaviours. I took anti depressants, saw a psychiatrist - nothing stuck because I was never honest and never stopped numbing myself for long enough to actually deal with it properly.
Fast forward to after I had my son, and some postpartum depression kicked in. I had stopped drinking during my pregnancy and thought I had kicked that habit. But habits that you don’t deal with have a way of coming back to bite you in the ass.
I started numbing myself again - telling myself at the end of a long day with a baby I deserved this “reward". I am not going to go into the detail of my relationship with alcohol in this post, I feel like that is another post altogether, and one that I need to be ready for.
I was lucky that it didn’t escalate too far before I decided I needed to stop.
My personal rock bottom was far enough for me, but I know it could have been a lot worse.
I can’t even say for sure what got me to the first initial website that helped me - hipsobriety.com - I was probably just googling how to stop drinking etc as I had done before and I came across it.
On that site, there are so many articles I could relate to and I highly recommend it if you are struggling with alcohol in any way shape or form - It was on this website that I found an article on meditation with a list of resources.
When I thought about meditation I imagined naked hippies in a circle holding hands and chanting…and I was NOT about that life! But because this article had a list of resources it was easy for me to try one. And boy, am I glad that I did. It has been the single most life changing thing I have ever done for myself.
You see, meditation has done the following for me:
Removed my anxiety
Decreased my depression by 95% - I still have days where I feel down but my bounce back rate is SUPER FAST - like within a few hours I have snapped out of it, either by sitting down and meditating or if I cant then just by breathing.
Changed the way I react in any given moment
Changed the way I see the world
Showed me what gratitude means - and in turn shown my that you can access joy ANY TIME you want - it is a real superpower that we all have
Taught me compassion towards other humans - even the bad ones
Changed my self image to a positive one
Taught me that we are co-creators in what happens in our life
"The purpose of meditation isn’t merely to reduce stress or to make you feel better in the moment—it’s to make fundamental discoveries in the laboratory of your own mind." Sam Harris, Waking up
I kid you not - just this ONE thing - meditation - has changed all of that for me.
Again - I am not saying I never have bad days or bad moments within a day - but you learn how to start again in each moment - and that thoughts are just that - they don’t define you.
Even if you don’t have a drinking problem, or depression - meditation can improve your life drastically. I often refer to it as a super power that each of us has, yet we don’t access it. And it is so easy to access!!
So here is a list of resources that have taken me on my meditation journey. I hope someone out there who needs to read this does, just as I did. Because I KNOW it will change their life too.
I am going to list my favourite meditation resources, but before I do........let me tell you a secret - you actually have everything you need to start meditating right now. You don’t even need an app or website to help you. You could just set aside 5 minutes a day and do the following:
Sit quietly somewhere you won’t be disturbed.
Legs crossed or feet on the floor whatever feels comfortable to you.
Head and shoulders straight.
Set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes (or download insight timer on the App Store)
Close your eyes
Take 3 big breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth, then return your breathing to normal. (NB!! Did you know the right way to breathe is so that your diaphragm/tummy expands on the inhale? I did not!)
Focus on your natural breathing.
When you notice that you are distracted by thoughts, note the thought as “thinking” in a non judgemental way and release it.
Go back to focussing on your breathing.
That’s all you really need to get started. Do that for a week and I guarantee it - you will be hooked.
If, like me, you don’t buy it and want some actual resources, here we go (in no particular order):
* These are all mobile apps but the links I have included take you to their websites to read up on them - you could just search for them on the app stores though.
This is a really great place to start and it was the first app I downloaded - the first thing you will notice is that there is no chanting or naked hippies. Just practical guided mediations. The vocal guides who talk you through it sound totally normal and you feel like they are close friends. The free version allows you to do the beginners course and then to access the entire library you need to pay a monthly sub. I started paying after day 1 already.
This is really special - this is a different type of mediation that is all about mindfulness, and on each of the days ( it is a 50 day course) you do different exercises during meditation. The first few days are free, thereafter if you want to carry on you pay a monthly sub. I have just finished the 50 day course.
Lots of free content on here plus it has a timer that works really well- you can even add intervals for when you are doing meditations that require that. https://insighttimer.com/
I LOVE this woman and she has been instrumental in a lot of change for me. You can do her guided meditations from her blog. I also really encourage you to read her book “May cause Miracles” as this, along with meditation, really helped me uncover all the shit I was burying deep inside that I was using alcohol to numb.
Here is a quick one of her kundalini meditations that I love: https://youtu.be/eiLWO9jOTao
Wayne Dyers mediations on YouTubeStop - especially "I am that, I am" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A96OI4b8sFY
- a bit pricey but tons of content - not just mediations but sleep stories and videos too.
I can’t encourage you enough to try meditating. Even if you think it’s “not for you” as I did - trust me - it is for EVERYONE and I honestly believe that the world would be a much, much better place if everyone meditated.
I will do another post soon that highlights some of my actual favourite meditations.
Thanks for reading....namaste